Disclaimer: Co-sleeping and Bed-sharing. It’s like the plague if you’re not on board with it. Some moms love it, some moms hate it, and some moms hate to love it. Regardless of where your baby sleeps, it’s up to you to provide a safe environment. As the author of The Smother Mother blog I have endured a ton of scrutiny from sharing this blog post. Some vicious mothers even accusing me of being creepy for naming my blog using the word “smother,” as if it correlates with bed-sharing and suffocating my child. Before you decide to harass me with that nonsense, take a quick look around my website, you’ll see I am head over heels in love with my child and would never do anything to purposely endanger him.
Now, without further a do, let’s get to the story of how one mama shut down all of her co-sleeping, bed-sharing haters with one simple Facebook post.
Faleesha S. was tired of being bashed for her decision to co-sleep with her baby so on May 22nd she took to Facebook to speak her mind. Not long after she posted, her status went viral and received 5.3K likes, 8,848 shares, and 992 comments.
As a fellow smother mother, who also co-sleeps, we wanted to spread the love by sharing Faleesha’s story. Read on to see how this co-sleeping mama shut down her haters with one brilliant Facebook post.
Co-sleeping, Bed-sharing Mama Shuts Down Her Haters
Something I frequently hear when the topic of co-sleeping comes up is:
“You’ve created a monster,”
“Obviously she controls your house,”
“Why would you let her be dependent on you like that? 24/7?”
There are two categories of people I would like to address here;
Non-parents and parents.
First, non-parents: YESSSS, my baby who has never experienced any part of life other than the small world she knows because I’ve shown it to her is completely dependent on me. If that’s a shock to you, pleaseee don’t have kids for a long time.
I’m 1/2 of the pair of people that are solely responsible for teaching her or making sure she learns how to survive in this world. This world that is absolutely terrifying to adults who (think) they know everything. I can’t bring myself to let her cry all the while wondering why her means of comfort, love, and survival isn’t coming to get her.
You know when you really need someone so you call them over and over and they just don’t answer? Isn’t that terrible? Imagine not having the mental capacity to understand that the person you’re calling for is busy?
Don’t judge my parenting until you’ve tried it yourself.
And parents; Have you ever said, “Wow, I just cuddled and loved on my child too much. Oh how I regret spending those moments doing that?” No? I’ve never heard that one. But I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I’ve heard parents say how they wished they could hold their baby one more time and smell the sweet baby smells.
Have you ever said, “Wow, I just cuddled and loved on my child too much. Oh how I regret spending those moments doing that?” No? I’ve never heard that one.
Every parent with a toddler with scraped knees, 5 year old who is afraid of the dark or teenager with a broken heart says “I wish I could take away their fear/pain.” Wouldn’t you if you could? Because right now I can.
My baby isn’t scared, lonely, or cold in my arms at night. She won’t remember it, but for a few hours a night for a few short months, she won’t have to worry about anything other than being comfortable and nursing when she wants/needs to. I don’t think I’ll regret giving her that.
She won’t need me forever. Someday she’ll sleep more than a couple hours a night in her own bed. When that times comes (hopefully) we’ll both be ready. Until then, I’m here to be anything she needs me to be.
Right now, she may not know it yet, but she’s learning about love. I want her to have anything she needs from me. Someday when it’s over I hope to not have to wonder if I’ve given her enough. Growing up is hard, tonight doesn’t have to be.
Someday when it’s over I hope to not have to wonder if I’ve given her enough. Growing up is hard, tonight doesn’t have to be.
So for everyone who has called me a push over, or her a brat, this is for you! Thank you for reminding me that the rest of the world isn’t always so nice. So for her, I will be.
Here’s my baby furnace keeping me warm inside and out, because she told me she needed me tonight. And may tomorrow be another day that she has the courage to be independent in her exploration of her brand new world because I’ve given her the confidence that I will always be there when she calls. 💜
Note: By saying this I am in no way insinuating that people who chose not to co-sleep are bad parents. Everyone makes decisions that best fit their family and their baby. This is about ours.
What are your thoughts on co-sleeping and bed-sharing? I encourage you to share your relevant thoughts in the comments below. Having trouble getting your baby to sleep? Check out: How to Lay Down a Drowsy Baby Without Having to Army Crawl Out of the Room
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