“A lifelong commitment is not what most people think it is…”
This sentence caught my eye the other day as I scrolled down my newsfeed. My friend Cherie had shared it to her facebook page, and it immediately got me thinking about my marriage.
Here’s what it said:
For couples so eager to call it quits and throw in the towel on your relationships because everything isn’t “perfect”… here is some food for thought: Lifelong commitment is not what most people think it is.
“Lifelong commitment is not what most people think it is…”
It’s not waking up every morning to make breakfast and eat together.
It’s not cuddling in bed until both of you fall asleep, peacefully, at night.
It’s not a clean home filled with laughter and lovemaking, everyday.
A lifelong commitment is so much more than that..
It’s someone who steals all the covers (and snores!).
It’s slammed doors and a few harsh words, at times.
It’s stubbornly disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment until your hearts heal…and, then…FORGIVENESS!
It’s coming home to the same person, everyday, that you know LOVES and CARES about you in spite of (and because of) who you are.
It’s laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It’s about dirty laundry and unmade beds WITHOUT finger pointing.
It’s about helping each other with the hard work of life!
It’s about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud.
It’s about eating the cheapest and easiest meal you can make and sitting down together at a late hour to eat because you both had a crazy day.
It’s when you have an emotional breakdown and your love lays with you and holds you and tells you everything is going to be okay…and you BELIEVE them.
It’s about still loving someone even though, sometimes, they make you absolutely insane.
I wanted to share this post with you all because I think society puts a ton of pressure on couples that your marriage must be perfect or else you need to divorce. This couldn’t be further from the truth..
The Honest Truth About Marriage
The honest truth, is that marriage is not always a pretty thing but it’s always worth fighting for. (Let me put a discretion here that domestic violence or anything of that sort is NOT worth fighting for, like ever)
Me and my husband are currently going through a lot of growth as individuals, right now, which hinders us from getting a lot of “alone time” as a couple. He just started a new job, we just moved to a new town, we have a two-and-a-half year-old, a dog.. yada yada.
But you know what?
We wouldn’t be where we’re at right now, without each other.
Being married to him and having him as my lifelong partner is sooooo absolutely worth it. Even on the days when it’s super hard, even on the days when I’m moody and one wrong move of his sets me off.. even when he’s snoring at 3am and keeping me awake when I have to be up at the crack of dawn the next day.
I know deep down, I could never do this thing called life without him.
Commitment isn’t Easy
Loving someone and committing to them is not easy….sometimes it’s extremely hard; but it’s amazing and comforting and one of the BEST things you’ll ever experience!
Marriage has grounded me, emboldened me, secured me, and also empowered me.
It has taught me patience, and humility, selflessness and strength.
It has taught me the power of touch, the simplicity of love, and the value of family.
Marriage is one of the best things I’ve ever done, and much like the task of parenting the tiny person that came with it, it has reinforced my knowledge that sometimes, the best things in life really do require hard work. But the benefits are allll worth it.
I am so blessed and happy to have my husband and I hope everyone out there can experience this kind of unconditional love someday.
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